Fonbe Helen

31/05/2022

It is with no doubt that most of the stigma around menstruation comes from boys and men. Do we blame it on lack of information ? Or Culture, stereotypes , perspectives and patriarchy menstruation is a normal part of every girl and woman's life. Men haven't embraced it as a reality and still consider it as a taboo or something dirty . Whatever the reason be, the stigma associated with menstruation does more hark than good to the female. It hinders her from accessing information better and improve menstrual hygiene management services infrastructure put in place to facilitate menstrual management has devastating effects on her health

Menstrual hygiene management involve four important aspects
* the first is to ensure women and girls have clean materials
The second thing is having the space where they can change with privacy
Access to clean water is of almost importance to wash them selves And hands after changing .
Women having the access or possibility of disposing the use pad especially when it's a disposable pads

25/05/2022

Ayah foundation is doing a lot to the under privilege which has a positive impact in our community

26/04/2022

11/10/2021

Happy international day of a girl child

International Day of the Girls Child reminds us that it is our responsibility to give them the importance they deserve and create an access to digital connectivity in other to expand their opportunities and built their skills.

Fonbe Helen
CESCOMPSUD Volunteer

06/05/2021

A CALL TO ALL PARENTS!!!

My daughter is six years old and is in grade one. We live about a kilometer away from school so everyday okada man whom we are familiar with takes her to school and returns her home in the afternoon because both my husband and I are working and we leave home early, just after she goes to school.
One day when I was at work I received a call from her class teacher requesting me to avail myself there as soon as was possible.

“What happened to Angel?” I questioned anxiously.

“Nothing to panic about, just make sure you come before we break up for the day.”
Of course I panicked. This had to do with my daughter and I was worried sick about her. I immediately excused myself from work and hurriedly took the first transport available. I burst into the classroom panting and sweating.

“Mama Angel,” The teacher started. “We will talk about this privately.” She led the way to an empty office and I followed meekly.
“Do you see your child off when she comes to school?” Was her first question.
I didn’t know where this was leading to, so I just replied with a short “Yes.”

“What time does she leave home?”
“She gets picked up a bit early because I have to rush to work. So around 7:00 to 7:15 a.m.
“How does she behave then?”
“She behaves normally.”

“I want you to brace yourself with what I’m about to tell you.

Are you ready?”

Did I really have a choice? I just nodded.

“Angel arrives here around 8:30 every day,” she started calmly. “For some time, she has been coming to school in tears every morning. First I thought it was because she didn’t want to come to school. Several times I asked her what the matter was but she didn’t give me a reply. Today when she arrived she was crying as usual so I took her aside, gave her some sweets and promised her some more tomorrow.

Then I asked her in a very friendly tone why she cries every day and the answer shocked me.”
She took a breath while looking at me and the anxiety almost killed me.

“Mama Angel,” she continued with caution. “The okada man has been ra**ng your daughter every morning for some time now.”

“What!” I almost fainted. I surely would have fallen down if I had been standing. For God’s sake, Angel was only six! How heartless can some men be?
“Every day after picking her and before coming here, he would take Angel to his house, r**e her and threaten to kill her if she ever tried to tell anyone. Then he’d bring her to school.”

I felt dizzy. Why? Why my little Angel? I was sweating. My whole body was shaking.
“Should I call your husband?”
“No!” I shouted. He might do anything.

Patience was something alien to him. I had to find a way of breaking the news to him. After a while, I decided to call his sister. Together we could try to talk to him.

The news shattered my husband. He cried uncontrollably. Then he got so furious that he swore he would strangle him, but we told him not to take matters into his own hands and just leave the law to do its work. We reported the matter to the police. We gave them the details of the boda boda man. They caught and took him in. We took Angel to the hospital after getting a p3 form from the police.

He was found guilty of ra**ng our little girl a multiple number of times and was sentenced to a twenty year jail term.

👉Absolutely no one should be trusted with our girls. Take time to drop your kids to school, be friendly with them, teach them to be polite but never to trust strangers, ask them about their day and always make them trust you enough to open up in case of any unusual incident.
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30/11/2020

Let's Stop Gender Based Violence in are communities it's a collective fight for all

28/09/2020

[ As E Dey Hot ]

"It's been almost 10 years since I had s*x... I was r**ed as a child by someone whom I don't remember" Cameroonian superstar singer Daphne E.N. reveals she was r**ed as a child and this has affected her entire life. Read her message below as she adds her voice in the fight against R**E and SEXUAL ABUSE!

" My name is Daphne NJIE Efundem. I was r**ed as a child by someone whom I don’t remember. I have lived through a series of depressions, anxiety and panic attacks and a deterioration of my health due to the trauma I’ve been through . I suffer from panic attacks and throw up every time I try to get intimate because I get the strong smell of his sweat and flashbacks of the scene.After my first relationship ended I couldn’t forgive myself for letting a man into me again. Things got worse when someone I confided in said to me “look at this one who doesn’t even remember who took her virginity” at that point I shut down completely. . I felt like a dirty, worthless thing . In 2013 I was diagnosed with a medical condition but could not get treatment due to my fear of pe*******on of anything into my va**na. I have dated a number of guys who couldn’t understand why I couldn’t have s*x. Some of them thought i was Le***an, some thought I had sold my va**na demonically for success in my career, some just believed that as an artist I was sleeping around thus the reason why I couldn’t have s*x with them. It’s been almost ten years since I had s*x. My health got worse over the years.In the end of 2018 I was rushed to the hospital after fainting from acute pain and after analysis the doctor said the most important test for my condition could be conducted because I was suffering from “Vaginismus”. He referred me to a psychologist/psychiatrist Dr Eyoum were I started therapy. Through therapy I have been able to overcome my depressions, I’m less anxious, more confident in who I am and in my abilities. By cutting of my hair , I threw away everything that hindered my growth in one way or another ( though it was also done in support of a strong Woman fighting with Cancer).I can say I’m “born again” ready to be a woman again,assertive, assuming, fearless , fully empowered and empowering.I am still work in progress but quite optimistic. Today I call on you all to follow my foundation on Instagram and Black Empowered woman on Facebook, together let’s fight against this increasing evil act of r**e and s*xual abuse and encourage mental and psychological health care through therapy to enable our girls and women who are victims of this act to grow without a hindrance in their development and emancipation. I tell my story to let you know you’re not alone and you need help. I started because so many women/girl are suffering from the effects of s*xual and don’t know that they need help or where to get help. Let’s do this together."

27/07/2020

A lot of our youths after graduation get frustrated because they are looking for jobs. entry one institutions to another with little or no hope of getting one. they want to be employee and not employers work hardest to make a change and empower others around you be the Boss and employer of your enterprise

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