28/05/2020
Why they are how they are ( Teens)
Lately you are observing behavioural changes in your child who is in her/his 13 to 15 years of age.
You see him/her trying to move away from his beloved parents and more attaching to the friends.
You are wondering how your child could ask you reverse question
You think how come he/she has lost her patience and become impulsive
You are confused as why he/she isunable to understand how much you are loving him/her.
If you come across all these symptoms, take a deep breath and and be assured it is normal. Your child is no more a child he is transiting to adulthood and this period is called as adolescence now they are called as teenagers.
Teenagers are neither children nor adults. This transition is like a transformation from Caterpillar to butterfly
They have got an opportunity to findout a lot of changes in their Body as well asin mind during this transition time. This is the time they discover their own personality and skill. In other words they are struggling to make their mark theiri identity. This is is more important for them than anything else .
So, only thing you can do now is to support them, in this exciting journey.
Adolescent season according to American Academy of Pediatrics is a fast paced developmental period in 5 key areas
Moral, social, physical, cognitive, and emotional . The period considered as adolescence is 13 to 19 years
Along with key areas adolescence have strongly affected by adolescent Egocentrism. This adoloscent Egocentrism reduces as they mature.
Three important factors of egocentrism:
Obsessed about self: Most of the time they focus on themselves👨💻
Personal strengths: they think them selves as special and and unique.🦸♂️🦸♀️
Imaginary audience: They feel they have been noticed by everyone and all are observing.🧜♂️🧜♀️
Normal Behaviour of a Teenager
🙂🙃😐😒Mood swings
🤦♂️ 👨👩👦Staying away from family
Risk taking and going for challenege💇♀️👯♀️🧗♂️🕺
Thriving for experiences⛹️♂️🏊♀️
Experimental thoughts.🛀🚣♀️🤺
Less talks or no talks at all .😷🙁😐
How to help your teen.🍁
As a parent you can🌼
👨👩👦Encourage your teen to take up challenges
👨👩👦Have an open talk with your teen about their friend and close circle
👨👩👦Sometimes your teen may not be willing to open up with you Encourage your teen to speak with a trusted adult about problems or concerns.
👨👩👦Explain them to handle stress related to studies, identity, relationships etc..
👨👩👦Set the rules and boundaries while setting them gree
👨👩👦Find ways to spend time together.
How you can support them during challenging times.
👉When your teen becomes more impulsive
❤ Talking about the consequences of their actions such as reward or a negative consequences . Brain gets connected to this.
👉When your teen cannot confront a bad situation
❤ Remind your teens that they’re resilient and competent.
👉When your teen displays versatile interests
❤ Become familiar with things that are important to your teens. Showing an interest in the things they’re involved in shows them they’re important to you.
👉Whenever your child speaks about problems
❤Ask teens if they want you to respond , or if they just want you to listen.
When your teen keeps quiet
❤ Don't ask in an authoritative voice. Sit with them for few minutes and talk for few more minutes . And don't ask the reason for their silence. Wait till they come out with an explanation.
❤ Silence is an effort for them to understand what is happening in their mind and body.
🤝Assure them every changes happening to them is same for everyone including you. Speak to them about your adolescence experience and your mood swing etc….
🤝Teens may have crush and it is common. Speaking about your crush with her/him may reduce her/his guilt.
Make them understand crush and love are two separate aspects.
