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09/05/2026

AITA for canceling my brother's wedding venue reservation after he uninvited me?

Update if you’re interested.

So, I (37M) have a younger brother, "Tom" (26M), who’s getting married in three months. A year ago, when he and his fiancée were planning their wedding, they were struggling to find an affordable venue. I own a vacation property with a large yard that’s been used for a couple of small weddings before, so I offered it to him as a wedding venue, rent-free. My only condition was that I wanted to be part of the wedding party, which he agreed to. Everything seemed fine.

Last week, Tom and I got into a small argument. It really wasn’t a big deal, but a couple of days later, he texted me and said he and his fiancée decided to "downsize" their wedding party and I was no longer going to be a groomsman. I was shocked because I thought this was set in stone a year ago. I called him to ask what was going on, and he said it wasn’t personal, just that they wanted to keep things small and "intimate" and didn’t feel like they needed me in the wedding party.

I was pretty hurt, but I didn’t say anything at the time. Then it occurred to me: if I’m not important enough to be in his wedding party, why should I host the wedding at my place? So I called him again and told him that since I wasn’t going to be part of the wedding, they’d need to find another venue. Now, Tom and his fiancée are furious. They say they can’t afford another venue at this...

09/04/2026

AITA for saying I am not my stepkids mother when people bring it up?

I (29f) married my husband John (33m) last year. He has three kids from his first marriage ages 12, 11 and 10. My husband was divorced when we met and sadly, his ex wife passed while we were in the stages of preparing to introduce me to his kids. We waited longer than we had planned due to the kids fresh grief and the fear of them having a negative response to so much happening in their lives. When I was introduced the first time it was awkward. The kids were less than enthusiastic and after an hour the oldest spoke up and said they didn't want another mom. I told them that was good because I would never replace their mom. I told them I really liked their dad, and wanted us to be cool, but that I would never need to be more than their dad's girlfriend or wife if we took that step in the future. I told them they could tell anyone they needed to that I am not their mom and I would do the same. Then we spent two hours talking about their mom and how much they missed her.

I met my husband's parents and siblings a few months after I met his kids and it went pretty well. But fast forward on a few more months and the kids were hearing how good it was for them to have a mom again and I stepped in and corrected them that I was not the kids mom. My husband was not in the room at the time. But when he...

09/04/2026

AITA for yelling at my Dad for eating my BD cupcake?

I (15F) just celebrated my birthday. My family doesn't have a lot of money, so I didn't expect much. Mom cooked my favorite dinner, and we all had ice cream for dessert. I also got a bday card with $25. It was a nice day.

My boyfriend (15M) was invited to the birthday dinner but couldn't make it because he had to work. He felt really bad but promised to make up for it the next day.

Even though he works, all of his paycheck goes to his parents to help support his big (5 siblings) family. He has always been great about finding fun/interesting/creative things for us to do that are free/cheap. It inspired me to up my game and help find fun/cheap activities for us, but I'll admit that he's still so much better at it.

So, while I absolutely was not expecting a 'gift', I was definitely looking forward to whatever he imagined up for our day.

There's a bakery I love, but it's over an hour away from where we live. The desserts are delicious, but expensive. I often talk about this one cupcake I LOVE from that bakery, but I can only enjoy it when I'm in the city and can afford it.

He doesn't have a car, so he had to take a train, then walk, then take a train back to get me my favorite cupcake for my birthday. He also planned a historic walk of our town, with a bunch of obscure history he'd researched that I didn't know about (it was awesome)

I...

09/04/2026

AITA because I won’t let friends decide “who gets me” in their divorce?

I (F) had a very good friend (M) John in high school. He started dating Jane. (all same age).

In college I met and married my husband. We all went to the same college and all got along famously. It was really the most ideal thing ever.

One night, now 15 years into our friendship, and 11 years into my marriage, I hear the phone and my husband is basically flying out the door in the dead of night. I said WTF is going on? He says he can't tell me.

He's SUPER uncomfortable with this. I see his phone says John. He apologized profusely, says he doesn't know what to do, he can only say he promised not to say, and left.

I sat up waiting for hours wondering wtf happened! My mind was spinning! Long story short, Jane was cheating on John, doing drugs, and had a hysterectomy behind his back.

John left her and gathered 'the guys' to tell them. Husband came home and was surprised I was still there. Apparently Jane was going to meet with me and 'the girls' but took drugs and passed out.

Messing up the plan to tell everyone equally. I confronted John saying I was friends with him before Jane! Before ANYONE in the group!

Not only that he got my husband to LIE to me?! Unacceptable. He said they agreed Jane 'could have me' in the divorce so he didn't know what else to do.

She doesn't have much family and now fewer to no friends. John knows I've lost...

09/04/2026

AITA For Vetoing My Wife’s Plan To Name Our Son Lannister, Breaking Our Naming Deal?

When we got married, my wife and I made a deal that she gets to name our male children while I get to name the females. Our first child is a girl and I named her. Our second child is a boy, so my wife should be the one to name him.

However, when she told me that she wanted to name our son Lannister after her favorite Game of Thrones family, I put my foot down. I'd have no problem if she wanted to name our dog Lannister, but this is our son. I asked her if she really wanted him to be named after a family of villains, but she just reminded me of our deal.

She said she liked the Lannisters and it was her turn to name our child, so he would be named Lannister. We've had this conversation countless times and she refuses to budge. The birth will be a C-section and I'm seriously considering filling in the paper work myself while she's still out.

I know this might sound unfair to my wife given our deal, but wouldn't it be more unfair to my son if he was named after a family of power grabbing incestuous w**e guzzling villains? Edit: She does not want a middle name. She wants his name to be just Lannister Ourlastname.

Edit 2: The Lannister motto is 'Hear me roar'. The line 'A Lannister always pays his debts' is just a common saying. Edit 3: No, our daughter's name is not Daenerys.

It's Margaery. I kid, it's Margaret. Edit 4: To those...

09/03/2026

AITA for making my wife wrap her own Christmas presents?

I (32M) hate wrapping up presents. That's why I usually just either get stuff gift wrapped at the store or put gifts in a gift bag with some tissue paper.

My wife (30) hates when her gifts aren't wrapped up pretty so she can take pictures of them to post.

A couple of the gifts I got her this year are from online merchants that don't do gift wrapping.

She saw me putting them in gift bags and made a face. She said she really wanted them wrapped up nice.

We have had this discussion many times. My father was a cheap b__tard that used to scream at my mom for wasting money on gift wrapping. I like gift bags because they can be reused. I literally get like a panic attack thinking about wrapping a gift. Yes I know it's stupid. Yes I have therapy to deal with my many many issues.

So she ended up wrapping her own gifts. But she is mad at me for "not making an effort". She said I need to get over it and just man up and learn to wrap gifts.

EDIT

The reason I left the gifts I ordered online in the shipping boxes is because my wife likes to open stuff. I don't know why. She took the boxes out of the bags and then wrapped the shipping boxes. She didn't want to remove them from the shipping boxes until she opens them.

09/03/2026

Aitah for telling my sil to mind her own business instead of making me quit alcohol

Long story short, I am 27 year old and my wife is 27 as well, my wife has a sister who's 31, she's always been kind and everyone thinks of her as a good person but deep down I think she's faking it.

I am an a__oholic, I drink every single day if I don't drink and smoke I feel anxious and get tremors sometimes I went to psychiatrist bunch of times but I always relapsed, my doc has recommended rehab but I am absolutely against it.

My wife has no problem with alcohol as long as I take care of myself and I don't become agressive like most others so Im fine, I'm 5'9 and I have kept my shape well maintained, I have six packs and most people in our family always tell me that I look much better even tho I smoke and drink alot.

Anyway yesterday my sil called me to her house and I went to her place and she said she had to tell me something important, she said I need to quit drinking and smoking cause it's harmful for me and she knows I'm against rehab so she can help me instead.

I told her that it's none of her business and I will quit on my own terms and how could she possibly help me when she isn't even a psychiatrist.

She said she can give me emotional support and she can help me recommend psychiatrist and I can also come to her place whenever I feel like drinking, I said no to all that...

09/03/2026

AITA for refusing to call guy my own age by his preferred title?

So I just began my summer research project at university this week. I am a 5th year senior and 22 years old, I have 2 other students working with me and they are both a year younger than me. One of them seems to have a huge ego right off the back and is trying to take complete control of the project and acts like were his employees and dismissed our ideas. At first I let it slide, but then I thought this was the first week so I better nip this in the bud.

He flat out refused to consider one of my ideas today in lab and I said, look John, this is our project and we all get to decide how this is decided, you don't have veto power and we are equal partners who must listen and work with each other. He then go pissy and said "please address me as mr. smith, as it creates a level of respect between us". he proceeded to lecture me on his accomplishments in engineering and why he should be the sole lead of this project.

I looked at him in disbelief and sneered at him and said I'm never going to call you that and to stop acting so pretentious. He got really offended and said he was going to get me kicked out of the research class for intimidation and harrasment. The other person a 21 year old girl in my group is totally on my side.

AITA?

09/03/2026

AITA for telling my dad to “shut the hell up and stop ruining everybody’s evening”

I (16M) still live with my parents, my siblings (27F and 25M) do not, they visit sometimes but it’s rare for us all to see eachother. They are both visiting right now. Yesterday we were all playing a board game and my dad was annoyed about something (can’t remember what, but it wasn’t anything major) he kept huffing, making weird remarks and overall bringing the mood down. This is not the first time he has done something like this and I got fed up. I told him to “Stop acting childish, shut the hell up and stop ruining everybody’s evening”. He blew up at me saying that “I am the child here and should realize who I am talking to” he then went to his room and didn’t talk to anyone for the rest of the day. My mom is taking his side, saying that I just made him more mad for no reason, but my siblings take my side. AITA?

Edit: I adressed these things in the comments, but I understand not everyone reads all of them. My dad is the kind of guy that cannot take criticism esp from someone he thinks is “inferior” to him. there had been other, somewhat similar situations where I tried to be kinder/ more respectful, but when I do that he doesn’t take me seriously.

He was in a foul mood because my mom and him had a disagreement earlier and his mood worsened by not doing well in the game.

I fully understand that he is my parent and I do respect him usually, this was...

09/02/2026

AITA for taking my wife’s side in an argument and telling my mom to “get the hell out”?

I (27M-East Asian) have been married to my wife (27F-South Asian) since 2017. We have a 3 year old daughter and a 6 month old son.

So my wife can’t cook. She can do basic stuff obviously but she hates it. It’s like a mix of fear and clumsiness. And honestly, up until we got married I didn’t cook either.

Obviously this was a problem.

We eventually came to a solution. I do the cooking and she washes all the dishes before and after. I’m fine with it-she’s fine with it and we’ve been functioning well.

My parents and my in laws came over the other day for dinner and everyone was having a great time. That was until my MIL complimented my cooking skills.

My mom was a bit taken aback for some reason and asked me if I cooked “again”. I informed her that I usually cook and she just got even moodier.

I brushed it off but then when my inlaws left, I caught my mother “scolding” my wife.

About what?

Well, apparently she should be the one cooking-not me. You know why? Because she’s the wife, the woman and I’m the husband, the man.

My wife stood up for herself and said that we both came to an agreement and we didn’t need her input on how we made our food. I involved myself at this point and told my mom that she was being very unreasonable.

My mother said that she didn’t get me married to become a slave to my wife and...

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