10/07/2026
Dearest Sorors, Amicae, and Guests of this Premier State,
It has come to this author’s attention that sisterhood is quite easy to proclaim when everyone gathered is in agreement.
But introduce a differing opinion into the room and, suddenly, the bonds of sisterhood appear to require… terms and conditions.
How curious.
A Soror or Friend says no, and whispers begin. She offers a different perspective, and she is declared difficult. She establishes a boundary, and somehow her character becomes the evening’s entertainment. She receives an opportunity another desired, and congratulations become noticeably harder to locate.
And heaven forbid she should disagree and remain unmoved. AHA!
Perhaps, dearest readers, the scandal is not that she thinks differently.
Perhaps the scandal is that we expected sisterhood to require her agreement.
For what is diversity if we celebrate differences in appearance, generation, profession, background, and experience, but become offended by differences in thought?
One must wonder: When a sister or friend disagrees with you, do you seek to understand her… or seek an audience with which to discuss her? 👀
There is quite a difference between the two.
True sisterhood cannot exist only among women who find one another agreeable. It must also survive the uncomfortable meeting, the opposing vote, the declined invitation, the unexpected boundary, and—yes—the dreaded word… No.
So perhaps this Wednesday's most delicious piece of society news is not about her behavior at all. Perhaps it is about ours. Before declaring a Soror difficult, disrespectful, jealous, unfriendly, or “not sisterly,” one might first ask: Did she actually mistreat me…or did she simply refuse to agree with me?
My, my. Therein lies the AHA.
Sisterhood is not proven by how beautifully we behave when everyone agrees.
It is revealed by how we treat one another when they do not.
Do govern yourselves accordingly. After all… Lady Zaffire is always taking notes. 🖊️💙
Yours in observation and finer reflection,
Lady Zaffire
