08/27/2026
: "Learning to ask for help is one of the biggest lessons I learned during my time at Princeton. I have my residential college adviser (RCA) to thank, Chirag Kumar ’23, who I met on move-in day. Attending a school like Princeton was always a dream of mine growing up but never one that I thought I could achieve — having gone to a small public high school in a lower-income part of Burlington City, NJ, where not many people attended college, let alone an Ivy League school. I had a certain idea of what being a Princeton student meant and worried that in trying to fit into that I might lose sense of myself. My first sense of imposter syndrome struck when I opened my acceptance letter, and I brought it with me into my freshman fall. This made my first year difficult and if it was not for Chirag, it could have been a lot harder. Our RCA Chirag taught our zee group that it’s OK to ask for help. He always took time out of his busy senior year to check in and see how I was doing. The way he made me feel included in our zee group was one of the most inspiring experiences I had at Princeton and inspired me to become an RCA as a senior. A core part of being an RCA is having the ability to connect your zees with clubs, affinity groups and resources that pique their interest. Chirag helped me do that, which led to leadership opportunities that built my confidence. My best piece of advice to first-years (and anyone at Princeton) is the same advice Chirag gave me: that learning how to ask for help is an important life skill. I would not have been a successful RCA nor student had I not gone to the community of people who support me, time and again, and asked for help. I always told my zee group: While asking for help may make you feel like you’re not knowledgeable, remember it takes a wise individual to know when to ask for help. I advise that you start by asking people who you are comfortable asking; gradually you’ll gain the confidence to ask anyone you see fit for help when necessary. It’s a skill that applies not only to college, but to any profession or walk of life.” — Abiola Bolaji ’26; Photos by Noel Valero ’82*86 and Angel Chang Liu ’27