Ruth Bomar, ADHD PhD Coach

10/23/2026

Courage doesn't mean something is easy.

Sometimes it means showing up with your doubts, your imperfect preparation, and your very human brain.

That's what I learned preparing for Falling in Love with My Brain.

I didn't need a different brain to do something courageous.

I needed to trust the one I have.

10/21/2026

10/20/2026

I did a hard thing!

I stood on the Inspired Leaders stage and shared my story, Falling in Love with My Brain.

What you didn't see were the weeks of preparation, self-doubt, and just about every ounce of brain space I had!

But I did it. With my ADHD brain. Not in spite of it.

And that is something worth celebrating!

10/08/2026

It’s almost time.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve shared pieces of a story that took me decades to understand.

The teacher who could create a classroom full of meaningful learning—and lose the papers.

The young mom doing everything she could to keep her head above water.

The woman at mid-life who found herself working at Starbucks for minimum wage.

And the unexpected business that eventually grew out of that chapter.

For a long time, I thought the difficult parts of my story said something about who I was.

Maybe I wasn’t capable enough.

Organized enough.

Disciplined enough.

Enough.

I see that story very differently today.

My brain was never my enemy.

I simply didn’t understand her yet.

**Falling in Love With My Brain.**

Not just the polished parts.

The messy parts, too.

Because sometimes understanding your story changes the way you see your whole life.

Helping ADHD Thinkers love their brain and build systems that make life work.

10/05/2026

There was a point in my life when things fell apart.

So I took a job at Starbucks for minimum wage.

It certainly didn’t look like the beginning of a success story.

I wasn’t dreaming about becoming an entrepreneur.

I wasn’t mapping out a business plan.

I was trying to figure out what came next.

And then, almost unexpectedly, a business fell into my lap.

At the same time, I went back to school to earn a PhD.

That business eventually became the work I do today—helping ADHD Thinkers understand their brains, build systems that work, and bridge the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it.

Looking backward, I can see a thread running through so many chapters of my life that I couldn’t see while I was living them.

Teacher.

Mom.

Student.

Woman in midlife wondering what in the world came next.

Coach.

Business owner.

It has taken me a lifetime to understand my brain that was there through all of it.

And to learn to love her.

**Falling in Love With My Brain**

Helping ADHD Thinkers love their brain and build systems that make life work.

10/02/2026

Falling in love is easy.

Living together is the tricky part.

The same was true when I began learning to love my brain.

Awareness was one thing.

Actually living with this brain every day was another.

Remember young-mom Ruth teaching her son to read?

What you didn’t see were the half-started projects cluttering every available surface.

Everything felt equally urgent, which made deciding what to do first incredibly difficult.

Motivation and energy could show up in abundance one day—and disappear the next.

For years, I kept asking some version of:

**Why can’t I just do this?**

Eventually, I learned to ask a very different question:

**What does my brain need in order to do this?**

That question changed everything.

It was one more step toward learning to love the brain I actually have instead of constantly fighting with it.

**Falling in Love With My Brain**

Helping ADHD Thinkers love their brain and build systems that make life work.

10/02/2026

I’m outside on my morning walk.

09/29/2026

Remember sixth-grade teacher Ruth?

You might walk into my classroom and see one kid dressed like an Egyptian pharaoh and another dressed like a Roman centurion.

There was singing. There was activity. There was meaningful learning.

And yes—it could get noisy and messy.

But behind the scenes, my brain was struggling.

I lost random papers.

My gradebook had gaps.

I was late for morning duty.

And sometimes I forgot there was a staff meeting after school.

I loved teaching. I was good at teaching.

And managing time and organizing all the details of life could feel overwhelming.

**Both things were true.**

It took me a long time to understand that.

My struggles didn’t erase my strengths. And my strengths didn’t make my struggles any less real.

That realization became part of a much bigger story:

**Falling in Love With My Brain.**

Helping ADHD Thinkers love their brain and build systems that make life work.

09/26/2026

There’s always more behind the polished picture.

Today, you might see the PhD. The Professional Certified Coach. The woman standing confidently with a microphone.

But that isn’t the whole story.

For a long time, ordinary parts of life felt much harder than I thought they should.

Managing time.
Organizing life.
Following through.
Keeping track of all the moving pieces.

I didn’t feel capable. Most days, I felt like I was winging it—doing everything I could just to keep my head above water.

And underneath all of that was a nagging thought:

Maybe I’m just not enough.

It took me years to understand that my brain wasn’t my enemy.

I needed to learn how it worked—and what it needed from me.

That discovery changed much more than my productivity.

It changed the way I saw myself.

**Falling in Love With My Brain**

Helping ADHD Thinkers love their brain and build systems that make life work.

09/22/2026

When I was invited to share “My Story” at Inspired Leaders, I started looking backward.

There’s the story people see now: PhD. Professional Certified Coach. Business owner. ADHD Life Coach.

But that's not really the story I want to tell.

I want to tell you about the creative sixth-grade teacher who could bring history to life—but lose papers and forget an after-school meeting.

The mom who began looking at brains differently while teaching her son to read.

The woman who found herself working at Starbucks for minimum wage during one of the hardest seasons of her life decided to go get a PhD.

And somewhere in all of that, I began discovering something I didn't understand at the time:

my own brain.

So I've decided the thread running through my story is this:

Falling in love with my brain.

Over the next few weeks, I'll share a few pieces of that story with you.