09/09/2026
MY CONVICTION AS A CHRISTIAN COUNSELLOR
As a Christian Counsellor, my conviction is that the ultimate goal of our healing journey is to reach a place where we can begin to LET GO of, and RELEASE ourselves from, the pains and hurts that have been inflicted upon us.
But it is crucially important for us to understand and acknowledge that this CAN ONLY be made possible through the empowerment of the Holy Spirit and by the grace of JESUS.
“Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,” says the LORD of hosts.
— Zechariah 4:6
And Jesus Himself said:
“For apart from Me you can do nothing.”
— John 15:5
See also Romans 8.
One of the most powerful steps toward freedom is letting go of our perceived entitlement to remain hurt and to continue suffering because of what has been done to us—whether through betrayal, rejection, abuse, abandonment, injustice, trauma, invalidation, or other deep wounds.
This does not mean denying what happened.
It does not mean that the wrong done to us was acceptable.
It does not mean that justice no longer matters.
Rather, it means surrendering our right to remain bound to the pain.
Because sometimes, what happened to us is no longer happening to us—but we continue carrying it within us.
And this is where the EXCHANGE takes place.
We exchange bo***ge for freedom.
JESUS: THE ULTIMATE EXAMPLE
Jesus exemplified this kind of surrender for us.
He willingly humbled Himself and surrendered what was rightfully His. He did not cling to His equality with God as something to be grasped or exploited for His own advantage.
John 5:18 clearly reveals the Jews’ understanding of Jesus’ claim:
“For this reason therefore the Jews were seeking all the more to kill Him, because He not only was breaking the Sabbath, but also was calling God His own Father, making Himself EQUAL with God.”
Yet Philippians 2 tells us that although He existed in the form of God, He emptied Himself, took the form of a bond-servant, humbled Himself, and became obedient even to death on a cross.
“Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”
— Philippians 2:5–8
And what followed?
Exaltation.
“For this reason also, God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, so that at the name of JESUS EVERY KNEE WILL BOW, of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and that every tongue will confess that JESUS CHRIST is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”
— Philippians 2:9–11
Jesus exchanged the exercise of His divine rights and privileges for the humble obedience of the cross—and the Father highly exalted Him.
As Don Stewart of Blue Letter Bible explains:
“When Jesus became a human being He divested Himself of certain rights as God the Son.”
And Jaquelle Crowe of Open the Bible expresses the thought this way:
“Jesus is God, his equal, and yet emptied himself of all he deserved to save us from our pride. He who was entitled to the highest honor forfeited it for our redemption.”
This is the EXCHANGE I speak about.
And perhaps there is something we can learn from Christ’s example.
There are things we may have every human reason to feel entitled to—an apology, an explanation, justice, recognition, validation, restitution, or even the right to remain angry.
But healing may eventually require us to place even these things into God’s hands.
Not because what happened did not matter.
But because our freedom matters too.
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MY THERAPY ROOM 🌿
My Therapy Room is predominantly a Horticultural Therapy Room.
It is filled with plants.
Why plants?
Because plants remind me of our Creator.
Our God the Father is Himself a Gardener.
“The LORD God planted a garden toward the east, in Eden…”
— Genesis 2:8
There is something profoundly beautiful about sitting among living things that God Himself created.
Plants can create a calming and restorative environment, and the indoor plants in my Therapy Room also contribute to the wellbeing of the space by helping to improve the indoor environment.
But when you enter my Therapy Room, I want you to remember something even more important:
YOU are more precious to God than any of His other amazing creations.
You are the only creation made in the image of God.
You are the one for whom Christ died.
And, through Christ, you can be called a child of God.
So when you enter my Therapy Room, I hope you will feel that you have entered more than simply a room filled with plants.
I hope it becomes a place where we can pause.
A place where we can breathe.
A place where we can reflect.
A place where we can begin to gently examine the wounds we carry.
And, most importantly, a place where we can invite God into the conversation.
So…
WELCOME. 🌿
I look forward to having our first God-breathed therapeutic conversation.
May our conversations become part of the beautiful work of exchanging bo***ge for freedom, pain for peace, and captivity for release—not by our own strength, but by His Spirit and through the grace of JESUS.
Thank You, JESUS 🧡🧡🧡
