14/08/2026
If you’ve been doing Kegels and haven’t noticed much difference, keep reading.
Most of us arrive at pelvic floor exercises without much of a relationship with our pelvic floor in the first place. Which makes sense when you really think about it!
We grow up with so much stigma, shame and silence around our ge****ls, pleasure, sexual health, periods.
Until there’s a problem.
You start leaking. S*x hurts. You feel heaviness. Something changes after having a baby ( or before). And suddenly you’re being told to squeeze your pelvic floor.
But you might not have a clear sense of where it is, what a Kegel is supposed to feel like, what relaxing those muscles feels like, how they respond to breath, pressure or movement.
So before you get too caught up in trying to strengthen your pelvic floor with Kegels, let's help you get to know it.
For this, I’ve rolled up a thin blanket and placed it lengthways on a stool, then I’m sitting over it so I can feel the pressure against my perineum (the area between the va**na and a**s).
Start taking some deeper breaths and just notice the contact.
Where can you feel the blanket? Is the sensation clear or quite quiet? Does one side feel different from the other?
Then place your hands around your lower ribs and breathe into your hands, feeling your rib cage expand as you inhale and lower as you exhale.
Keep some of your attention on the contact underneath you.
Can you feel anything change there as you inhale and exhale?
You might. You might not. Don't be discouraged.
You’re not trying to make your pelvic floor do something impressive.
You’re learning what you can feel.
Because leaking, heaviness, pain and other pelvic floor symptoms can make us very focused on fixing the thing that feels wrong.
And I want you to improve your symptoms too, BUT I also want you to come away knowing your body better than you did before those symptoms began.
Not just with a dry list of exercises, but with an understanding of what you’re feeling and how your body responds.
That, to me, is a much more useful place to begin.
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