19/03/2026
Solemnity of St. Joseph,
Spouse of Mary
March 19, 2026
Homily | Fr. Arnel Aquino, SJ
Whenever we talk about St. Joseph, we often say he was âa quiet man,â did you notice? Two possible reasons for this. First, Joseph appears only in the infancy narratives, then, no more. But even there, he has no speaking lines. Heâs âquiet.â The 2nd reason why I personally think Joseph was a quiet man, was because he was a carpenter. All the carpenters Iâve known are quiet. Mang Roger in Sacred Heart Novitiate; Kuya Teodor & Mang Remy in San Jose Seminary; Kuya George in Arrupe; Lakay in LST. Lahat tahimik. Maybe because they need to concentrate, practicing the dictum: âMore talk, more mistakes; less talk, less mistakes.â
Naisip ko rin, siguro si Joseph, kung mag-isip, math & geometry: size, shape, weight. Tingin niya siguro sa mga bagay-bagay: estimates, plans, blueprints. âMeasure twice. Cut once,â Sukatin mong ilang beses para minsan lang ang tabas. Otherwise, you pay to replace something you cut too short. So, Josephâs world mustâve swirled in the silence of calculation & calibration.
Then, weâre told that Joseph was a righteous man. So, he mustâve been exacting in his religion, too. Not only did he measure his life by the numbers on his ruler, but also by the word of Law: what to pray, how to wash, when to go to Temple, what not to eat, not to touch, not to even look at, lest he became impure! âYung buhay niya sukĂĄt sa medida (tape-measure), at sukĂĄt din sa relihiyon.
Eâ ang Diyos, as you & I know, nambubulabog. No matter how you live by the straight & narrow, how neatly aligned your principles, bubulabugin pa rin âyan ng Diyos.
Joseph & Mary were about to get wed. But before they lived together, a euphemism for âbago sila nagsiping,â Mary became pregnant. Joseph, the righteous human, malamang kinausap niya ng masinsinan si Mary. âMagsabi ka ng totoo. Kanino âyang batang âyan? Hindi akin âyan, beh. Kanino âyan?â Mary mustâve been forthright with him: âJose, dinalaw ako ng isang sugo raw ng Diyos. The child I bear is of the Holy Spirit.â Joseph surely understood the words, angel, bear, child, Holy Spirit. But not how Mary put them all together in one sentence that left him out of the picture. âHindi ito kasya sa plano ko,â thought the exacting carpenter. âHindi ito moral,â thought the devout Jew. And since Romans were known to abuse & even r**e women, imagine Josephâs most excruciating suspicion. He was duty-bound by the Law to report Maryâs adultery to the Sanhedrin. Instead, he decided to divorce Mary quietly. Which really wouldnât have solved the problem anyway. Kasi kapag lumaki na ang tiyan ni Mary & there was no husband to claim that the child was his, Mary was still doomed. The only way Joseph could save Mary was to take her as his wife & accept the child as his own. Just like God told him in a dream through an angel.
In doing exactly this, Joseph proved to the whole world that he was indeed a righteous man, even if in the eyes of the Law, all this was a punishable scandal. Sisters & brothers, Joseph went against his own measured life, against his own principled religion, to protect the mag-ina. Ever done that? Part w/ your neatly curated principles & go against the grain of your dearly held religion in order to protect someone?
Thatâs what I love about Joseph, dear sisters & brothers. Matuwid na tao, pero hindi rigid, hindi rigorista. Oh, he knew the letter of the Law very well & would never compromise his religion & morals just like that. But a mother-&-childâs safety & survival rested on his carpenterâs hands. So, he violated his own exactness for the sake of his neighbor. I bet he suffered quietly for nine months, swinging from despair to hope, doubt to certainty, & back. What if Maryâs story is just an alibi? But what if itâs really the Messiah? Was my dream really God or only me? It was the worst mess; a monkey-wrench God had thrown into his well-measured, carefully calculated life & faith.
Joseph, therefore, was not just a righteous man. More than that, he was a man of great love. Back then as well as today, thatâs a difficult combination. What happens more often, back then & today, is how the very righteous, the people who live by the letter of the law, the rules, the policy, can tend to be quite the most unloving people around. Moral nga but hurtful. Righteous nga but angry. Religious nga but self-absorbed. Lawful but heartless. Efficient in systems but deficient in humanity.
When the child Jesus grew up, he became exactly like Joseph & God, his fathers on earth as in heaven. Kung anong puno, siyang bunga. In the eyes of the self-righteous, Jesus broke every rule in the land, ministering to the unclean, the impure, the possessed. But his fathers on earth as in heaven? They wouldnât have had it any other way.
Like Joseph, sisters & brothers may we value being merciful more than being right. May we prize humaneness over efficiency. May we save others first before our systems. May we put suffering people before policy. And may we never replace love w/ the Law. St. Joseph, husband of Mary & father of Jesus, pray for us.