Doctor’s of Fatima Jinnah Medical University, Lahore.

04/01/2026

Assalam o Alikum,
Wishing you a healthy day 🌿
How are you feeling today?

05/11/2025

02/10/2025

25/08/2025

Today is a deeply sorrowful day for all of us, for FJMU, for Akhter Mubarak, for AFJOG, and especially for me personally. We have lost not only a senior doctor but also a mentor, a guide, and a light that showed us the way.

Prof Mussarrat Nisar (Ex president AFJOG, Consultant Pathologist) devoted her entire life selflessly to charity projects, the welfare of patients, and helping the needy. She carried herself with elegance, lived with sincerity, and was always a kind friend and a compassionate human being. She was also a great mother, balancing her roles with grace and strength.
For me, she was more than a senior—she was like a guiding star, someone whose wisdom, generosity, and discipline shaped my path. Her absence leaves a void that can never be filled, but her legacy of service and kindness will continue to inspire us all.
We will miss her deeply—her smile, her presence, her support. May Allah grant her the highest place in Jannah, and may her family and all who loved her find strength in this immense loss.
Rest in Peace, Dr. Sahiba.
Your light will continue to shine in our hearts and our work.
Love you!
Kausar Saleem

04/07/2025

04/07/2025

The custody agreement said we were "co-parents," but what we were actually doing felt more like psychological warfare with a seven-year-old caught in the crossfire. Isabella Francis's "Co-Parenting After Divorcing A Narcissist" didn't just find me—it rescued me from drowning in the impossible mathematics of trying to reason with someone who had rewritten the rules of reality.

This isn't a book about healing your relationship with your narcissistic ex—it's about learning to protect your sanity and your children while navigating a minefield designed to explode every time you try to be a decent human being. Francis doesn't offer false hope about finding middle ground with someone who believes they are the center of the universe. Instead, she hands you armor and teaches you how to use it.

1. You're Not Co-Parenting—You're Parallel Parenting in a War Zone
Francis immediately dismantles the myth that co-parenting with a narcissist is possible. True co-parenting requires empathy, compromise, and putting children first—qualities narcissists literally cannot access. She introduces the concept of "parallel parenting," where you run two separate households with minimal toxic interaction. This reframe was revolutionary for me. I wasn't failing at co-parenting; I was trying to play a game where only one person knew the rules kept changing.

2. Your Children Are Both Weapons and Shields
The most heartbreaking insight Francis offers is how narcissistic parents use children as extensions of themselves while simultaneously treating them as pawns in an ongoing revenge plot. She shows how your ex will weaponize your love for your children against you, knowing that your protective instincts are their most powerful manipulation tool. But she also teaches you how to shield your children from becoming casualties in a war they never asked to fight.

3. Documentation Is Your Lifeline
Francis doesn't just suggest keeping records—she treats documentation like the survival skill it is. Every text, every email, every broken promise needs to be preserved because your narcissistic ex will gaslight you into believing conversations never happened and agreements were never made. She provides practical templates and strategies for creating an unshakeable paper trail that protects both you and your children when reality becomes negotiable.

4. Gray Rock Method: Becoming Emotionally Invisible
One of the most powerful techniques Francis teaches is the Gray Rock method—becoming so boring and unresponsive that your narcissistic ex loses interest in using you as their emotional punching bag. She shows how to drain all the fun out of conflict by becoming strategically dull, responding only to direct questions about the children, and refusing to engage with provocations. It's like learning to become invisible while still being present for your kids.

5. You Can't Save Your Children by Sacrificing Yourself
Francis gently but firmly dismantles the martyr complex that many of us develop when trying to protect our children from a narcissistic parent. She shows how our attempts to absorb all the chaos and manipulation actually teaches our children that this dysfunction is normal. The most loving thing you can do is model healthy boundaries, even when it feels impossibly hard.

6. The Courts Don't Understand, But You Can Still Win
Perhaps the most validating section of the book addresses how family court systems are woefully unprepared to handle narcissistic abuse. Francis acknowledges that judges often can't see through the charming façade narcissists present in court, but she provides concrete strategies for presenting your case in ways that highlight patterns of behavior rather than individual incidents. She teaches you how to speak the language of evidence when dealing with someone who speaks the language of manipulation.

What makes this book extraordinary is how it balances protective strategies with genuine healing. Francis doesn't just teach you how to defend against narcissistic manipulation—she helps you rebuild your sense of reality, trust your instincts again, and create a peaceful sanctuary for your children in the midst of ongoing chaos.

If you're trying to co-parent with someone who treats every interaction like a chess game where you're always three moves behind, this book will teach you how to stop playing their game and start playing your own. Francis has written a survival guide disguised as a parenting book, and for anyone caught in the web of narcissistic co-parenting, it might just be the lifeline you need.

BOOK: https://amzn.to/4nxdSkl

You can find and listen to the audiobook narration using the link above.