05/05/2026
If you, your chapter, or your region is grieving right now, please hear this first:
Take care of yourself.
Not eventually. Not after you have handled every message, every plan, every phone call, and every logistics question. Now.
One of the first things our guide for chapters after the death of a brother says is to take care of yourself and your immediate emotional needs. That is not extra. That is step one.
This is a guide for chapters, advisors, and leaders navigating the death of a brother. It includes practical help on communication, family contact, memorial planning, and continued support for the brotherhood.
If you need it, use it. If someone else needs it, send it to them.
And if you are hurting, please do not try to push through grief alone. Call someone. Sit with someone. Use campus counseling resources. Let people help.
We are very good at showing up for each other in crisis. This is one of those times.
Find the guide here: https://apo.org/deathofabrother/